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Seven Reasons Why Men Don’t Go to Doctors (a woman’s perspective) and the Three Reasons Women Nag You

May 28, 2021 09:31AM ● By Dr. Kristy Harvell
Women go to doctors as much as four times more than men. They also live longer. The reason why men don’t seek medical advice until a real crisis arises has been a perplexing one for ages. Polls have been performed, and the major health associations and popular men’s health publications have all written articles on this very fact.

Here are seven of the most common reasons why men don’t go to doctors, accompanied by female commentary:

I don’t trust doctors. If you are of the opinion that “you can’t trust them as far as you can throw them,” shop around! Get a personal recommendation from someone that you do trust, like a family member, friend, neighbor or co-worker. You don’t need to go alone on this one, there have already been people in your close circle that have had to figure out who the best of the best are.

I don’t want to spend the money. You work hard for your money and you don’t want to spend it on something that doesn’t provide a measurable result. A little prevention goes a long way on this one. You can either spend money now on healthy food choices, wellness visits and supplements or you can spend money later on sick days, lost production, medications, surgery and hospitalizations. The average American spends $220,000 on health care in retirement, eating up as much as 30 percent of what they have put away!

It’s probably nothing! Most of the time you’re right, but why take the risk when we have access to modern health care? Your body is intelligent and those warning signs are like the check engine light. Taking care of the problem sooner rather than later will require less time and fewer resources and lead to a full recovery. The longer you ignore it, the bigger a problem it will become to deal with.

I don’t have time. If you can’t find the time to take care of your health now, how will you find the time later for more drastic and invasive procedures? Americans are now living longer with long-term chronic illnesses. That retirement that you’ve been working so hard toward may not live up to everything you had planned if you are spending all your days going to doctor appointments and living with physical limitations.

Fear of the unknown. So, seeing your doctor may force you to confront your current lifestyle (smoking, drinking, weight gain, sky-rocketing stress levels). The good news is that your doctor is there to help you and advise you, not to judge you. Knowledge is power. The more you empower yourself, the more control you can take over your health.

I’m tough, I don’t need help! Let me guess, you’re not lost and you don’t need directions either. Sometimes, the toughest thing you can do is admit your weaknesses. It’s a fact of life, moving parts break down and require maintenance.

I can’t live on twigs and berries! It’s true that better health might require some changes to your daily routine. Don’t compare what works for someone else to your own circumstances. There is no one magic cure or diet that works for everyone. What does work every single time is small, gradual changes that you can form into a new habit for the long-term. A vegetarian or low-calorie diet doesn’t work for everyone. Diet recommendations should be made on an individual basis and take into consideration your age, health history and activity level.

So guys, if you find your female counterparts “nagging” at you, this is what it really means:

We love you! When we find something that works for us, we want to share it with you so you can experience the same benefits. We don’t want to keep it all to ourselves.

We are attracted to your masculinity and strength. Those same qualities that originally attracted us to you are still attractive, and we want you to preserve your health and vitality for years to come.

We are planners. We can predict the same course that we see our parents heading down and we know that we don’t have to accept the same inevitable course. Research shows that we can overcome our genetic predispositions with a little TLC.

We know if we leave it up to you, it will never happen unless it was your idea. We really don’t like to nag you or be considered a nag. If you are starting to think of the women in your life as nags, listen to what they are asking of you. Chances are it is something that they feel wholeheartedly about and have your best interests in mind.

Dr. Kristy Harvell is the owner of Health by Design, located at 2002 Southside Service Rd., in Jacksonville. Harvell graduated in the Phi Chi Omega Honor Society, cum laude, with certification in Cox flexion distraction technique. She has studied pediatrics and pregnancy care, clinical applied nutrition, and thermographic and surface electromyography diagnostics. She is certified in Brimhall’s Six Steps to Wellness, has completed 200 hours of applied kinesiology training, and has hundreds of hours of study in the fields of functional medicine and clinical nutrition through Metagenics and Standard Process as well as advanced clinical training with Ulan Nutritional Systems. For more information or to make an appointment, call 904-363-3374 or visit